👩🏾‍❤️‍💋‍👨🏽 Five Years Together: How Long to Celebrate Dating Anniversaries After Marriage?

Today marks five years since Anthony and I officially became a couple, and it has

been a journey worth sharing.

What started on a beautiful October 4th blossomed into a partnership full of laughs, lessons, love, and now, legacy. It’s wild to think we’re also just five months away from celebrating our first anniversary as husband and wife. Time really does fly when you are building a life with your person.

But as we reflect on this five-year milestone, a question has come up in our household — one I’m curious to hear your thoughts on too:

Do couples still celebrate the day they became “official” after they get married?

Anthony says we should now focus solely on our marriage anniversary (March 18th), and let go of October 4th as a relationship marker. But me? I’m all about celebrating everything — every part of our story, every chapter that got us here.

Because October 4th is where it all began. It was our first official date and the day we decided we were “doing this.” It wasn’t just another moment — it was the moment. And it feels worthy of acknowledgment, whether with a toast, a blog post, or a slow scroll through old photos and memories.

🎥 Capturing the Private Moments

For most of our relationship, we kept things pretty private. We weren’t posting #CoupleGoals every weekend or announcing every milestone online — not because we weren’t proud, but because we were focused on us. Growing. Learning. Building.

But just because we weren’t posting didn’t mean I wasn’t documenting. Y’all know I’m a memory-keeper. I have so many photos and videos that tell our story — the quiet moments, the vacations, the firsts, the fails, the food, the fun. I’ve been working on a short video montage to celebrate our 5-year mark, which I’ll post to Instagram (and maybe a longer version on the site later 👀).

Eventually, it became clear that what we had was forever. That’s when we got matching tattoos of each other’s birthdays on our ring fingers — a symbolic “yes” to the life we were already building, no formal proposal necessary 🖤

That’s why we created House of Moses — our digital home for sharing the memories and milestones we’re ready to put out into the world. And if you’ve been following, you know the journey’s just beginning.

🎉 So Do We Celebrate It or Not?

Maybe this will be our last October 4th celebration as “our anniversary before the anniversary.” Or maybe we’ll just keep celebrating both — after all, why limit love to one date on the calendar?

I’d love to know — what do you do?

If you’re married, do you still acknowledge the day you became a couple? Or do you focus only on your wedding day?

Drop a comment, send a message, or tell us on Instagram. Either way, we’re celebrating today. Five years of love is something worth pausing for — no matter how many months into marriage you are.

💛 Here’s to every version of our love — past, present, and still to come.

— Jazmyn

House of Moses

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